假期的早上
你還像個孩子般睡著
我煮了早餐
心裏覺得很踏實很溫暖
是啊這就是結婚後的平安感
不管是兩口子簡單的做個晚飯
出外覓食走走或跟朋友相聚
還是半夜聽歌看戲不願睡
都有滿足感
不再徬徨 願意負擔你照顧你。
不用再尋尋覓覓 扭曲自己
Sunday, June 30, 2013
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Sunday, June 9, 2013
男女感情相處如何保持新鮮感
From 龍震天blog
http://blog.yahoo.com/masterdragon/articles/42567/category/%E7%94%B7%E5%A5%B3%E6%84%9F%E6%83%85
This blog talks about how to use tactics in winning relationships. Very useful!
男女感情相處如何保持新鮮感
http://blog.yahoo.com/masterdragon/articles/42567/category/%E7%94%B7%E5%A5%B3%E6%84%9F%E6%83%85
This blog talks about how to use tactics in winning relationships. Very useful!
男女感情相處如何保持新鮮感
有網友想我寫多一點男女感情方面的事情，看來這類型的題材確是大受歡迎。
人有兩個本能，食和性。正所謂食色性也，這兩個本能是天生的，你怎樣不接受你也會受到這兩樣東西影響。
此即我們請人吃飯，生意會容易傾得成。
而感情，更是不可或缺的東西。不過男女有別，男的要不停新鮮，不停想去識新女仔；女的則要保鮮，即同一個男人，但要保持新鮮感。
因為女仔較注重安全感，所以女仔除非天姿國色，大把選擇，否則都只會對一個男朋友好，而希望這個男朋人最終會娶她。
但事實當然不是如此。男仔如果好，又自然會有好多女仔選擇，所以男女感情常常鬥智鬥力就是這個原因。
女的唯有出盡法寶，其中一個殺手鐧，就是不停的保持新鮮感。
怎樣保持？我好想說，男仔其實好膚淺，他們多數較為注重外表，所以女仔要保持新鮮，就一定要不同的時間在外表上不停的包裝。
注重髮型，一世都咁型
髮型，我常說好重要，並不是你一個髮型適合你，你一生都用那個髮型；如果是這樣，那男朋友走了，不是他的錯，是你的錯。
不同的時間試試不同的髮型，對你一定會有莫大的幫助。
留意自己的衣著，你會有好多得著
另外，衣著也是不可或缺的一環，想想自己最吸引人的地方是那裏？胸部？腿部？手臂？買的衣服，盡可能將你最好的一面表露出來。
根據統計，不論肥瘦，越露得多，越能吸引，越容易結識異性。
有些人對我說，肥婆是不需要外露的，因為她們不會有男仔喜歡，這句說話大錯特錯，我這裏所說的，並不是刻意的誇張外露，當然你穿著得像泳衣一樣上班 就沒有可能，但有些簡單的暴露，既吸引又大方；例如恤衫不扣頭兩粒鈕，不太過份吧？短裙稍為高一點，也可以吧？上衣比較貼身，也做得到吧？著兩吋以上的高 跟鞋，也是不錯的選擇。
即使有男朋友或老公都好，我強烈建議你這樣穿，並不是結了婚就不需要留意衣著的。想想看，男人為甚麼會有第三者？是找到一個好有內涵的女仔嗎？我常 說，要找有內涵的女仔並不太難（當你五年都沒有拍拖，你就知道甚麼叫內涵了，五年的時間足夠可以令你成為一個最有內涵的女人），但要找一個好樣的，吸引人 的女孩子才是不易。
那你有足夠打扮，足夠暴露，大量男性朋友，你看你的男朋友會不會緊張你？這是一個女客人教我的，她衣著性感，打扮入時，說話偏高，間中加多兩句英文；但她性格充滿愛心，心地好，是一個一等一的好人。
她就是這樣告訴我："其實男人是很賤格的，你就用賤格的方法去對付他；他要看性感的女人，你就做些性感的形象給他看；他就會用奇怪的邏輯和你說話："你穿成這樣，怎麼可以？這條短裙差點連內褲也看到了。"
你就繼續穿，當你獨自出街時，他就會問你在何處，和甚麼人一起，非常緊張你。
這些就是權謀術，一方面令男方緊張自己，另一方面令自己大把後備；當正室男朋友有甚麼差池，可以有大量後備補上。
自己想想看，不是老是想為何男朋友變了；其實是你自己變了，你內心已變，因你越來越愛他；但你的外表變了，因為你變得越來越老。
人有兩個本能，食和性。正所謂食色性也，這兩個本能是天生的，你怎樣不接受你也會受到這兩樣東西影響。
此即我們請人吃飯，生意會容易傾得成。
而感情，更是不可或缺的東西。不過男女有別，男的要不停新鮮，不停想去識新女仔；女的則要保鮮，即同一個男人，但要保持新鮮感。
因為女仔較注重安全感，所以女仔除非天姿國色，大把選擇，否則都只會對一個男朋友好，而希望這個男朋人最終會娶她。
但事實當然不是如此。男仔如果好，又自然會有好多女仔選擇，所以男女感情常常鬥智鬥力就是這個原因。
女的唯有出盡法寶，其中一個殺手鐧，就是不停的保持新鮮感。
怎樣保持？我好想說，男仔其實好膚淺，他們多數較為注重外表，所以女仔要保持新鮮，就一定要不同的時間在外表上不停的包裝。
注重髮型，一世都咁型
髮型，我常說好重要，並不是你一個髮型適合你，你一生都用那個髮型；如果是這樣，那男朋友走了，不是他的錯，是你的錯。
不同的時間試試不同的髮型，對你一定會有莫大的幫助。
留意自己的衣著，你會有好多得著
另外，衣著也是不可或缺的一環，想想自己最吸引人的地方是那裏？胸部？腿部？手臂？買的衣服，盡可能將你最好的一面表露出來。
根據統計，不論肥瘦，越露得多，越能吸引，越容易結識異性。
有些人對我說，肥婆是不需要外露的，因為她們不會有男仔喜歡，這句說話大錯特錯，我這裏所說的，並不是刻意的誇張外露，當然你穿著得像泳衣一樣上班 就沒有可能，但有些簡單的暴露，既吸引又大方；例如恤衫不扣頭兩粒鈕，不太過份吧？短裙稍為高一點，也可以吧？上衣比較貼身，也做得到吧？著兩吋以上的高 跟鞋，也是不錯的選擇。
即使有男朋友或老公都好，我強烈建議你這樣穿，並不是結了婚就不需要留意衣著的。想想看，男人為甚麼會有第三者？是找到一個好有內涵的女仔嗎？我常 說，要找有內涵的女仔並不太難（當你五年都沒有拍拖，你就知道甚麼叫內涵了，五年的時間足夠可以令你成為一個最有內涵的女人），但要找一個好樣的，吸引人 的女孩子才是不易。
那你有足夠打扮，足夠暴露，大量男性朋友，你看你的男朋友會不會緊張你？這是一個女客人教我的，她衣著性感，打扮入時，說話偏高，間中加多兩句英文；但她性格充滿愛心，心地好，是一個一等一的好人。
她就是這樣告訴我："其實男人是很賤格的，你就用賤格的方法去對付他；他要看性感的女人，你就做些性感的形象給他看；他就會用奇怪的邏輯和你說話："你穿成這樣，怎麼可以？這條短裙差點連內褲也看到了。"
你就繼續穿，當你獨自出街時，他就會問你在何處，和甚麼人一起，非常緊張你。
這些就是權謀術，一方面令男方緊張自己，另一方面令自己大把後備；當正室男朋友有甚麼差池，可以有大量後備補上。
自己想想看，不是老是想為何男朋友變了；其實是你自己變了，你內心已變，因你越來越愛他；但你的外表變了，因為你變得越來越老。
Wednesday, June 5, 2013
Monday, June 3, 2013
What is love? How to maintain the feeling of love?
I was very in love with Alvin from jan to march 2012. My mind and soul were all about him. He gave me very different feelings and burned me by his passion. Later, we came through ups and downs. To me that's mainly because he has withdrawn from marrying me. To him, he didn't like me saying things so directly and ruthlessly. Up till December 2012, I thought we would break up soon if he didn't commit to me. Then I found myself got pregnant. This changed the whole picture. We got married in jan 2013 and expecting the baby.
I still wouldn't know if without baby liu, will we still be together. We have smoother time together after the first period of argument. I learnt how to treat him in saying better words.
However after a few months, I found sometimes I wanted to keep myself away from Alvin.
It started from mid may while we were in Singapore.
I can see that he has less passion for me now. He wouldn't plan much activities, and a lot of time he doesn't have much patience.
Even when we are together, sometimes not much to say also.
It kinda feel like the the last year with kelvin. This makes me scared. Coz we are both losing feelings.
Also he sometimes compared me to others, and asked why I m not curious / not interested / what are my interest. Quite often i feel i swallowed tolerance, unappreciated, inferior and unloved feeling.
All these make me want to get away.
Next Time I shall tell him stop asking about my interest. I don't like him keep asking question. This experience also taught me to be independent and never rely on someone. Have your own goals. Find yourself. Build a person who likes you and be confident about who you are.
When I read back my diaries of old days, which I wrote about my sadness in the ups and downs, and the desperation and pressure of marriage, I still feel grateful that I finally married. I thank Alvin for giving me a home, and set up a family with me with care.
I was very in love with Alvin from jan to march 2012. My mind and soul were all about him. He gave me very different feelings and burned me by his passion. Later, we came through ups and downs. To me that's mainly because he has withdrawn from marrying me. To him, he didn't like me saying things so directly and ruthlessly. Up till December 2012, I thought we would break up soon if he didn't commit to me. Then I found myself got pregnant. This changed the whole picture. We got married in jan 2013 and expecting the baby.
I still wouldn't know if without baby liu, will we still be together. We have smoother time together after the first period of argument. I learnt how to treat him in saying better words.
However after a few months, I found sometimes I wanted to keep myself away from Alvin.
It started from mid may while we were in Singapore.
I can see that he has less passion for me now. He wouldn't plan much activities, and a lot of time he doesn't have much patience.
Even when we are together, sometimes not much to say also.
It kinda feel like the the last year with kelvin. This makes me scared. Coz we are both losing feelings.
Also he sometimes compared me to others, and asked why I m not curious / not interested / what are my interest. Quite often i feel i swallowed tolerance, unappreciated, inferior and unloved feeling.
All these make me want to get away.
Next Time I shall tell him stop asking about my interest. I don't like him keep asking question. This experience also taught me to be independent and never rely on someone. Have your own goals. Find yourself. Build a person who likes you and be confident about who you are.
When I read back my diaries of old days, which I wrote about my sadness in the ups and downs, and the desperation and pressure of marriage, I still feel grateful that I finally married. I thank Alvin for giving me a home, and set up a family with me with care.
Saturday, June 1, 2013
Lose of passion
Since feb 2013, I haven't been crying so vigorously.
I feel deeply hurt by Alvin, and the same pattern in our dating stage came back again.
I have changed quite a bit in the way I treat him. In the past he always complain about me being too direct and inconsiderate about his feelings. After reading a blog written by a man, I finally realized this is not the right way n all men loves to hear sweet n positive things, like to be praised rather than be critised even tats not true. Relationship is aiming to give each other good feelings rather than arguing what's truth. This indeed make my relationship much smoother. At the same time, both of us are trying to do better, eg share housework, prepare for baby n make each other feel comfortable.
Yet Alvin has been picking on my slackness and lack of interest. This is something I always struggle with. I can see that he feels unexcited and often blame me why I can't share common interest with him. I have been going out with him to places he like, like museums. He wants me to show more interest, rather than just join the activity with him.and he will critised me if I never heard of those things. This discouragedcme to find out further. guess this is the dominating nature of alvin. He often ask what are my interests , which the whole gives me a lot of pressure.
I guess he is feeling bored, just like the continuation of our dating time. Alvin often complimented other gals like how curious they are, such as xin hui. it makes me feel that he is not looking for someone like me. I dont feel appreciated. i dont feel treasured. i feel very tired and pressured coping with him. In addition there are many activities I cannot do in pregnancy, like hiking cycling and now no more traveling. I also have no interest to shop, and cannot do hair. I m coping with the change of my body, the darkening of skin, the fear never to lose weight and fallen breasts. Frankly I hope Alvin can be more considerate to a pregnant wife.
In fact I finally understand that there is no men in the world can love me and accepts my true face. Even thats your husband, 你若不自強, 全天下的人都會踩你. it is similar to facing work and client. To maintain attraction, especially with people with high standard like Alvin, I must set high standards for myself, to develop my interest and passion. To keep pretty and knowledgable. Even when the baby is out, I shall have my own life. I shall also stop thinking whether it is a mistake to get married and have baby. I made my choice. And for Alvin, I realized that you should only know how to treat a man instead of love him. My love for him has been destroyed by events. He needs his time to be more stable and mature.
I feel deeply hurt by Alvin, and the same pattern in our dating stage came back again.
I have changed quite a bit in the way I treat him. In the past he always complain about me being too direct and inconsiderate about his feelings. After reading a blog written by a man, I finally realized this is not the right way n all men loves to hear sweet n positive things, like to be praised rather than be critised even tats not true. Relationship is aiming to give each other good feelings rather than arguing what's truth. This indeed make my relationship much smoother. At the same time, both of us are trying to do better, eg share housework, prepare for baby n make each other feel comfortable.
Yet Alvin has been picking on my slackness and lack of interest. This is something I always struggle with. I can see that he feels unexcited and often blame me why I can't share common interest with him. I have been going out with him to places he like, like museums. He wants me to show more interest, rather than just join the activity with him.and he will critised me if I never heard of those things. This discouragedcme to find out further. guess this is the dominating nature of alvin. He often ask what are my interests , which the whole gives me a lot of pressure.
I guess he is feeling bored, just like the continuation of our dating time. Alvin often complimented other gals like how curious they are, such as xin hui. it makes me feel that he is not looking for someone like me. I dont feel appreciated. i dont feel treasured. i feel very tired and pressured coping with him. In addition there are many activities I cannot do in pregnancy, like hiking cycling and now no more traveling. I also have no interest to shop, and cannot do hair. I m coping with the change of my body, the darkening of skin, the fear never to lose weight and fallen breasts. Frankly I hope Alvin can be more considerate to a pregnant wife.
In fact I finally understand that there is no men in the world can love me and accepts my true face. Even thats your husband, 你若不自強, 全天下的人都會踩你. it is similar to facing work and client. To maintain attraction, especially with people with high standard like Alvin, I must set high standards for myself, to develop my interest and passion. To keep pretty and knowledgable. Even when the baby is out, I shall have my own life. I shall also stop thinking whether it is a mistake to get married and have baby. I made my choice. And for Alvin, I realized that you should only know how to treat a man instead of love him. My love for him has been destroyed by events. He needs his time to be more stable and mature.
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